Attracting the right man online

Dating Profile Tips for Women

Women on dating sites, especially free dating sites like OkCupid or Plenty of Fish, end up getting inundated by hundreds messages from men lonely for a little sweet loving. So for ladies, it’s not about attracting men, it’s about attracting the right kind of men, while simultaneously discouraging the wrong kind of men, and there’s a few different ways to accomplish this. One with your online dating description.

3 Tips for Dating Profile that Will Attract Men

(1) Avoid Being Negative

Your dating profile is your first line of defense against nogoodniks and creepers. While you don’t want to be overtly negative, and you don’t want to focus on who you’re not looking for, you can successfully discourage men who don’t mesh with your needs.

For instance, if you’re not interested in a guy who smokes pot all day and plays video games, it’s less helpful to say: “no basement dwellers” than it is to say “I’m looking for a career minded, active, motivated man.” They both accomplish the same thing, but the one makes you sound like a judgmental shrew. Even career minded, motivated men, are going to stop and think twice about whether or not they’re good enough for you. They’re immediately going to be on the defensive, and what you bring out in them is unlikely to be what you hoped for.

(2) Go Out of Your Way to Not Sound Generic

Generic profiles are incredibly boring. If you’re a lady, you’re going to get responses anyway, but the problem is, men who are in demand, men who are interesting, men who can set up a lot of dates, and men who know what they want and are looking for a long term relationship, are going to pass it by, because, let’s face it, looks really aren’t everything. Intelligent, sophisticated men are going to see a beautiful woman and want to have sex with them, but when it comes to settling down, raising a family, and being in a real relationship, they’re not going to settle for someone who just looks nice. Profiles like: “I’m an open book, just ask!” basically tell people that you’re lazy, you can’t make decisions, you lack confidence, and that you’re going to make them do all the work.

The more specific you are, the better. You don’t have to go into every little detail, but “I love my family” is about the most cliche thing you can say. Talk about how you spend time with them or something useful. The more generic your profile is, the less interesting it is.

(3) No One Cares About Your Last Relationship or Previous Bad Relationships

Your profile is not a great place to air your dirty laundry. If your last boyfriend cheated on you, or you go dumped for someone who was sluttier, that’s great, but you don’t have to tell every prospective suitor about it. Firstly, it likely means that you haven’t adequately purged your baggage and are not completely ready for a new relationship. You need to focus on what you do want from your next relationship. If your wheels are spinning now and you’re coming up with something like “I want a guy who’s going to be faithful to me always” then you’re on the wrong track. The key to doing this right is to keep an open mind and to let things unfold as they will. If you’re on a first date and you’re getting pissed off because the guy you’re with smiled at the waitress then you probably need to take a step back and work on your inner self, before you can make something work with another person.